"If you expect nothing from anybody*,
you’re never disappointed."
Sylvia Plath
*except the worst
I would agree to it with this little annotation. It's what we learn about life, what we need to be prepared for.
Expectations are dangerous, not only because they are painful when they're not met, but also because they are poisonous to ourselves.
Especially when they concern other people, we're easily tricked into thinking that this other person is what we think they are, but we've never been this other person, never truly experienced who they are, but know only our impressions of them.
Further, expectations are things for the brain. The brain that calculates and estimates and does the job of brains.
Expectations are poisonous, because they're an expression of a certain righteousness, what do we think we are, we deserve?
But in a relationship with other people disappointment can rarely be avoided. And that is because we hope, seeing the potential of humans. Our hopes are the expression of our heart, they tell us who we truly are. If we stop hoping for the best, we've died a little.
If you encounter somebody, don't expect, though your brain might; but hope!
